If you experience bouts of anxiety, worry and depression or you obsess with unproductive and painful thoughts because you’ve experienced trauma (e.g., PTSD), you’ll likely benefit by learning to cultivate and externalize your awareness. You may believe that suppressing what your mind tells you or replacing your mind’s stories with better thoughts or self-affirmations will lead you to live your life in alignment with your values. Long-term; however, trying to not to think about your mind’s many stories is not effective and very often increases your suffering.
Research suggests that instead of helping you to experience more vitality, attempting to control your mind and get rid of the many painful thoughts and emotions that you experience will actually increase your pain (i.e., the rebound effect).1 Rather than attempting to control your mind and attempting to suppress your painful private experiences, learn how to monitor your thoughts and simply notice the frequency, duration and situations in which they occur. It is both simple and effective as it will allow you to focus on creating a life of meaning and purpose.
To separate your actions from your unproductive private experiences and help you to get into your life, you can self-monitor by physicalizing each occurrence of a painful thought or feeling with a tally counter. Using this simple object will help you to interrupt any covert behavioral patterns that lead to your suffering, realign and proceed in the direction of what you value (e.g., being a loving parent, using your creativity in your work, helping other people in your community, being healthy in order to play with your children).
While at first this may lead you to experience more discomfort as you realize how your control strategies have been ineffective in eliminating your pain, over the long term you will create a rich and meaningful life that measures up to your life’s purpose as you continue to self-monitor, expand and externalize your awareness.
To your health and success,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist , holistic health coach, and personal trainer can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
Abramowitz , JS, Tolin, DF and Street, GP. “Paradoxical effects of thought suppression: a meta-analysis of controlled studies.” (2001). Clinical Psychology Review, 21(5) 683-703.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.drjosesandoval.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
Several chronic diseases are mediated by your body’s inflammatory response. Conditions such as multiple sclerosis, depression, anxiety, arthritis, obstructive pulmonary disease, cardiovascular disease and even obesity are mediated by chronic inflammation.1, 2,3 When you experience an acute infection or sustain an injury to your body, your immune system mobilizes an inflammatory response to neutralize the infectious agent or initiate a healing response. Your body cannot combat acute infections or heal damaged tissues without inflammation. Conditions like heart disease, however, are the outcome of low grade, “silent” inflammation that is systemic and chronic.
Many over the counter and pharmaceutical medications (e.g., NSAIDs like ibuprofen, COX-2 inhibitors such as Celebrex) exist to reduce inflammation in your body. While these drugs do lower inflammation in your body, they bring with them several side effects (i.e., ranging from mild skin reactions and stomach ulcers to more serious conditions such as heart attacks, thrombosis or strokes). Thankfully, you can balance your immune system and modulate your body’s inflammatory response by changing your lifestyle.
Evaluating your body’s response to and avoiding common food allergens (i.e., shellfish, soy, dairy, corn, gluten, peanuts, citrus, mold, fermented foods) and minimizing anti-nutrients like phytic acid and oxalates which interfere with mineral absorption and lectins that set off an alarm in your immune system as well as balancing your ratio of omega 6 to omega 3 fatty acids will go a long way towards balancing your body’s inflammatory response. Your body’s inflammatory system is regulated by your immune system and hormone-like substances known as prostaglandins.
Prostaglandins are enzymatically derived from fatty acids and exert their physiological effect at localized tissue sites. Omega 6 fatty acids act as the building blocks for inflammatory prostaglandins. Omega 6 fatty acids are found primarily in nuts and seeds, processed vegetable oils, grains, legumes and conventionally raised animal foods. Omega 3 fatty acids help your body to produce anti-inflammatory prostaglandins. Rich food sources include small cold water, fatty fish, grass fed and pasture raised animals, dark green, leafy vegetables and some nuts and seeds. Ideally, you will eat a 3:1 to 1:1 ratio of omega 6 to omega 3 fatty acids. Unfortunately, the average American eats very SADly (Standard American Diet) nd consumes a 16:1 ratio of omega 6 to omega 3 fatty acids.4
In order to decrease your levels of systemic inflammation, prevent many chronic diseases and optimize your health, you must reduce your intake of unnecessary omega 6 fatty acids. Processed vegetable oils used for cooking and in most processed foods are often high in omega 6 fatty acids. Instead, cook with animal fats or plant sources of saturated fat that are more stable and do not oxidize easily. Tallow, suet, butter or ghee (grass fed) and coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil are healthy choices. In addition, make sure you increase your intake of long chain omega 3 fatty acids (i.e., EPA and DHA) by including food rich sources at least twice a week. While long chain omega 3 fatty acids have powerful anti-inflammatory effects in the body, plant sources of medium chain omega 3 fatty acids such as ALA are important for optimal health. Nuts, seeds and leafy dark greens are rich sources of medium chain omega 3 fatty acids. Make sure you include several servings a week.
To reduce systemic inflammation and optimize your health, you must also reduce your intake of refined and starchy carbohydrates. Excessive consumption of quickly digested carbohydrates (i.e., high glycemic index) contributes to the production of pro inflammatory Advanced Glycation End products (AGEs) that wreak havoc inside your body. AGEs are formed when simple sugar molecules bind to protein or fat without the enzymes necessary to control the reaction. You can also reduce AGEs by using low heat cooking methods such as steaming or light sautéing and reducing your consumption of animal proteins that have been browned or charred.
Regular exercise can also help to further reduce systemic inflammation by enhancing your body’s production of the anti-inflammatory, cytokine interleukin (IL)-10.6 Cytokines are chemical messengers that work to orchestrate your body’s immune system and inflammatory response. Aim to exercise for 30 to 45 minutes, four to five times per week to achieve optimal results. And, remember to have fun and play with your workouts. Vary your workouts and try adding brief, intense exercise routines a couple times a week.
Healthy Fats
Long chain omega 3 fatty acids: grass fed, pasture raised animals or wild caught, cold water, small fish. (e.g., sardines, herring, anchovies, sock eye salmon, bison, beef, venison, lamb).
Medium chain omega 3 fatty acids: dark leafy greens, walnuts, seeds (chia, flax, hemp, sacha inchi).
To learn more about how working with a clinical psychologist, personal trainer, and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a consultation.
Perry, VH. “The influence of systemic inflammation on inflammation in the brain: implications for chronic neurodegenerative disease.” Brain, Behavior, and Immunity. (2004), 18 (5): 407–41.
Salim, S, Chugh, G, Asghar, M. “Inflammation in anxiety.” Advances in Protein Chemistry and Structural Biology. (2012.) (88):1–25. doi:10.1016/B978-0-12-398314-5.00001-5.
Sin, DD and Paul Man, SF. “Why Are Patients With Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease at Increased Risk of Cardiovascular Diseases? The Potential Role of Systemic Inflammation in Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease.” Circulation. (2003), 107:1514-1519.
Simopoulos, AP. “The importance of the ratio of omega-6/omega-3 essential fatty acids.” Biomedicine and Pharmacotherapy. (2002), 56(8):365-79.
Gundry,S.R. The Plant Paradox: The Hidden Dangers in “Healthy” Foods That Cause Disease and Weight Gain.
Ostrowski, K, Rohde, T, Asp, S, Schjerling, P, and Pedersen, BK. “Pro-and anti-inflammatory cytokine balance in strenuous exercise in humans.” Journal of Physiology. (1999), 15; 515(Pt 1): 287–291.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.drjosesandoval.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
Gratitude is holding the attitude and expression or acknowledgement of the positive aspects in your life. Acknowledging your basic needs, material goods, friends, family and loved ones. A simple and easy practice that is customary in many world traditions.
Several psychological studies have found that when you cultivate gratitude you are more likely to be happy, cope more adaptively and increase your relationships with the people who you love.1,2,3,4 You are also less likely to get stressed or depressed and will engage in fewer negative coping behaviors, such as substance abuse.4
Acknowledging the positive aspects in your life can be challenging; particularly, when you focus or hold on to negative emotions like frustration, anger and resentment. Holding negative emotions towards situations and people in your life can exacerbate the painful conditions you are trying to avoid or change.
Fortunately, there are simple steps you can take to cultivate a grateful heart and reap its many psychological benefits. In order to have an attitude of appreciation, you must first release and let go of any negative emotions that you are holding on to in your life. Like any skill, you must also practice appreciation in order to cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
To help you release negative emotions, try the traditional Hawaiian practice of Hoʻoponopono. This traditional practice of forgiveness or reconciliation will help you to open your heart and mind to the many blessings in your life. It is defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary as a “mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness.”
To practice, simply bring to your awareness the difficult situation or person with whom you are holding on to a negative emotion. As you visualize the situation or person, repeat in your mind and affirm “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me,” “Thank you” and “I love you.” Let go of the need to find blame, be gentle and refrain from judging yourself. Continue this practice for 5 – 10 minutes. Do this every day for a few weeks and you will experience a shift in your heart and be more open and receptive to the good graces in your life.
As you let go of the negative emotions that are holding you back and begin to cultivate gratitude, you will also want to keep a gratitude journal. Start each morning reflecting on the people, situations or aspects of your life for which you are grateful. You can use The 5 Minute Gratitude Journal that has prompts for you to write down 2 aspects each morning. Gratitude journals have been found to help people experience more positive emotions and reduce painful feelings like depression in many psychological studies.5
To your health and success,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
Algoe, Sara B.; Fredrickson, Barbara L.; Gable, Shelly L. “The social functions of the emotion of gratitude via expression.” Emotion, (2013) 13(4), 605-609.
Emmons, R.A., McCullough, M.E. “Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. (2003) 84(2), 377-389.
Gordon, A.M.; Impett, E.A.; Kogan, A.; Oveis, C.; Keltner, D. “To have and to hold: Gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds. “ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2012) 03(2) 257-274.
Grant, A. M.; Gino, F. “A little thanks goes a long way: Explaining why gratitude expressions motivate prosocial behavior.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. (2010) 98(6), 946-955.
Lyubomirsky, Sonja; Dickerhoof, Rene; Boehm, Julia K.; Sheldon, Kennon M. “Becoming happier takes both a will and a proper way: An experimental longitudinal intervention to boost well-being.” Emotion(2011)11(2), 391-402.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.fullofradiance.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
If you’re like many people who experience feelings of sadness, depression or anxiety, you likely get caught up and entangled by your mind’s nasty and critical stories about you and your life. While it is reasonable and may even be natural to acknowledge the circumstances, situations or private experiences that evoke your discomfort or pain, your mind’s unending chatter and focus on what is wrong with you and your life has many negative effects on your health as your life narrows to only focusing on what your mind tells you.
Research in the area of Positive Psychology suggests that by shifting your attention and focusing on your character strengths, you can create upward spirals that will lead to a life time of authentic happiness.1,2, Fortunately, shifting your attention and noticing what is going well in your life and celebrating your successes is simply a matter of being G.L.A.D. every day.
To help you flourish and experience more authentic happiness, keep a journal and write about what it is that you . . .
GRATITUDE: Each day you have experiences and situations that you can appreciate for which you can experience gratitude. When you begin journaling about what you feel grateful for it may be challenging for you because your mind incessantly focuses on what ails you or is wrong with your life. The fact is that everyone who is alive has a reason to feel grateful. You may simply begin by writing about how you are grateful that you can be grateful. Appreciate the simplicity of life. Your lungs breathe for you every day without you telling them to do so. The fact that you have a roof over your head, food to eat and clean water to bath with each day. Your friends and family. In counting your blessings, start by focusing on what you are capable of doing.
Several psychological studies have found that when you cultivate gratitude you are more likely to also be happier, cope more adaptively and increase your relationships with the people who are dear to you.3,4,5,6 You are also less likely to get stressed or depressed and will engage in fewer negative coping behaviors, such as substance abuse.Acknowledging the positive aspects in your life can be challenging; particularly, when your mind focuses or holds on to uncomfortable and painful emotions like sadness, guilt, depression and fear.
As part of your evening ritual to retire to bed and go to sleep, write about 3 aspects in your life for which you experienced gratitude. Keeping a gratitude journal will help you increase your life satisfaction and reduce painful feelings like anxiety and depression.7
LEARNED: Every day you have experiences, situations and people that teach you something about life or yourself. Whether you are learning from a school teacher, professor, friend or simply a life experience, you have boundless opportunities and moments during which you learn something new, if you meet each experience with an attitude of curiosity, openness, and non-judgmentally. Whether it’s a new book, skill or sage advice and counsel from someone who you meet during your day or simply an experience during which you learn something new about yourself, taking in and recognizing that you have learned something new will help to enhance your level of engagement with life.
According to the PERMA model developed by the father of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman, Ph.D., and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Ph.D., a Positive psychologist, engagement with life and actively immersing yourself in your experiences leads to a state of flow and is part of the Good Life.8,9 Being in a state of flow leads to greater enjoyment, improves your performance and self-efficacy. When you keep a G.L.A.D. journal, write about something that you learned during your day.
ACHIEVED: You probably do not remember most of the experiences in your life because they occur mindlessly without your full conscious awareness. You are; however, much more likely to remember the events which resulted in a sense of accomplishment and success. Achieving small goals each day, such as reading for an hour, walking for 30 minutes, or writing 2 pages for your new book will help you to identify your strengths and move forward in your life by taking consistent action when life circumstances are challenging for you. The sense of accomplishment and success will enhance your self-esteem, engagement with life and help you to appreciate yourself. As your self-efficacy improves, you will be more resilient in the face of painful or difficult life situations.10 As part of your G.L.A.D journal, take note of any goals that you achieved during your day and celebrate each success not matter how small in may seem to you.
DELIGHTED: In your pursuit of authentic happiness, keeping note of the positive emotions that you experienced during your day is important. When you begin your G.L.A.D. journal make sure that you notice and savor every experience during your day that you were delighted by and enjoyed. This is very different from the pleasure that you experience from fulfilling basic bodily needs like hunger, sleep and sex, the companionship of your family and friends or time spent with nature. Being delighted and enjoyment arise from the pursuit of stimulating activities in which you use your unique strengths and contribute to something greater than yourself such as when you volunteer your time helping those in need at a shelter home or teach young children at your local church because these activities allow you to express your compassion and gift for teaching others.
To your health and success,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
Fredrickson, BF and Joiner, T. “Positive Emotions Trigger Upward Spirals toward Emotional Well-Being.” Psychological Science, (2002). 13(2), 172-175.
Algoe, SB, Fredrickson, BL, and Gable, SL. “The social functions of the emotion of gratitude via expression.” Emotion, (2013) 13(4), 605-609.
Emmons, RA and McCullough, ME. “Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, (2003) 84(2), 377-389.
Gordon, AM, Impett, EA, Kogan, A, Oveis, C, and Keltner, D. “To have and to hold: Gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds. “ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2012) 03(2) 257-274.
Grant, A. M.; Gino, F. “A little thanks goes a long way: Explaining why gratitude expressions motivate prosocial behavior.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, (2010) 98(6), 946-955.
Lyubomirsky,S, Dickerhoof, R, Boehm, JK, Sheldon, KM. “Becoming happier takes both a will and a proper way: An experimental longitudinal intervention to boost well-being.” Emotion, (2011)11(2), 391-402.
Salanova, M, Llorens, S, and Schaufeli, WB. “Yes, I Can, I Feel Good, and I Just Do It!” On Gain Cycles and Spirals of Efficacy Beliefs, Affect, and Engagement.” Journal of Applied Psychology, (2010) 60 (2), 255-285.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.drjosesandoval.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
If you’re like many people who experience feelings of sadness, depression or anxiety, you likely get caught up and entangled by your mind’s nasty and critical stories about you and your life. While it is reasonable and may even be natural to acknowledge your circumstances, situations or private experiences that evoke your discomfort or pain, your mind’s unending chatter and focus on what is wrong with you and your life has many negative effects on your health as your life narrows to only focusing on what your mind tells you.
Research in the area of Positive Psychology suggests that by shifting your attention and focusing on your character strengths, you can create upward spirals that will lead to a life time of authentic happiness.1,2, Fortunately, shifting your attention and noticing what is going well in your life and celebrating your successes is simply a matter of being G.L.A.D. every day.
To help you experience more authentic happiness, keep a journal and write about what it is that you . . .
GRATITUDE: Each day you have experiences and situations that you can appreciate for which you can experience gratitude. When you begin writing in your journal write about what you feel grateful for. It may be challenging for you because your mind incessantly focuses on what disturbs you or is wrong with your life. The fact is that everyone who is alive has a reason to feel grateful. You may simply begin by writing about how you are grateful that you can be grateful. Appreciate the simplicity of life. Your heart beats over 100,000 a day without you consciously telling it do so. The fact that you have a roof over your head, food to eat and clean water to bathe with each day. The rising of the sun each day. Your friends and family. In counting your blessings, start by focusing on what you are capable of doing.
Many psychological studies have found that when you cultivate gratitude you are more likely to also be happier, cope more effectively and increase your relationships with the people who are dear to you.3,4,5,6 You are also less likely to get stressed or depressed and will engage in fewer negative coping behaviors, such as substance abuse. Acknowledging the positive aspects in your life can be challenging; particularly, when your mind focuses or holds on to uncomfortable and painful emotions like sadness, fear and shame.
As part of your evening ritual to retire to bed, write about 3 aspects in your life for which you experience gratitude. Keeping a gratitude journal will help you to experience more positive emotions and reduce painful feelings like depression.7
LEARNED: Every day you have experiences, situations and people that teach you. Whether you are learning from a school teacher, professor, friend or simply a life experience, you have boundless opportunities and moments during which you can learn something new, if you meet each experience with an attitude of curiosity, openness, and non-judgment. Whether it’s a new book, skill or sage advice and counsel from someone who you meet during your day or simply an experience during which you learn something new about yourself, taking in and recognizing that you have learned something new will help to enhance your level of engagement with life.
According to the PERMA model developed by the father of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman, Ph.D., and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Ph.D., a Positive psychologist, engagement with life and actively immersing yourself in your experiences leads to a state of flow and is part of the “Good Life.”8,9 Being in a state of flow leads to greater enjoyment, improves your performance and self-efficacy. When you keep a G.L.A.D. journal, write about something that you learned during your day.
ACHIEVED: You probably do not remember most of the experiences in your life because they occur mindlessly without your full conscious awareness. You are; however, much more likely to remember the events which resulted in a sense of accomplishment and success. Achieving small goals each day, such as reading for an hour, walking for 30 minutes, or writing a page for your new book will help you to identify your strengths and move forward in your life by taking consistent action when life circumstances are challenging for you. The sense of accomplishment and success will enhance your self-esteem, engagement with life and help you to appreciate yourself. As your self-efficacy improves, you will be more resilient in the face of painful or difficult life situations.10 As part of your G.L.A.D journal, take note of any goals that you achieved during your day and celebrate each success no matter how small it may seem to you.
Delighted: In your pursuit of authentic happiness, keeping note of the positive emotions that you experienced during your day is important. When you begin your G.L.A.D. journal make sure that you notice and savor every experience during your day that you were delighted by and enjoyed. This is very different from the pleasure that you experience from fulfilling basic bodily needs like hunger, sleep and sex, the companionship of your family, friends, pets or time spent with nature. Being delighted and enjoyment arise from the pursuit of stimulating activities in which you use your unique strengths, are aligned with your life values and contribute to something greater than you such as when you volunteer your time helping those in need at a shelter home, help to build a house in your community for the impoverished, counsel children stricken by grief at your local church because these activities each allow you to express your compassion and gift for helping others.
Fredrickson, BF and Joiner, T. “Positive Emotions Trigger Upward Spirals toward Emotional Well-Being.” Psychological Science, (2002). 13(2), 172-175.
Algoe, SB, Fredrickson, BL, and Gable, SL. “The social functions of the emotion of gratitude via expression.” Emotion, (2013) 13(4), 605-609.
Emmons, RA and McCullough, ME. “Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, (2003) 84(2), 377-389.
Gordon, AM, Impett, EA, Kogan, A, Oveis, C, and Keltner, D. “To have and to hold: Gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds. “ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2012) 03(2) 257-274.
Grant, A. M.; Gino, F. “A little thanks goes a long way: Explaining why gratitude expressions motivate prosocial behavior.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, (2010) 98(6), 946-955.
Lyubomirsky,S, Dickerhoof, R, Boehm, JK, Sheldon, KM. “Becoming happier takes both a will and a proper way: An experimental longitudinal intervention to boost well-being.” Emotion, (2011)11(2), 391-402.
Salanova, M, Llorens, S, and Schaufeli, WB. “Yes, I Can, I Feel Good, and I Just Do It!” On Gain Cycles and Spirals of Efficacy Beliefs, Affect, and Engagement.” Journal of Applied Psychology, (2010) 60 (2), 255-285.
To your health and success,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
If you’re like many people at this time of year, you probably dislike the looming end of your “summer vacation,” the fun and travel and your return to school, your job and your increased commute. You may also have your share of difficult or even painful experiences in the form of financial worries or feelings of guilt and shame because of your indulgences. While all of these experiences are both very reasonable and frequently lead to short term gratification or pain, they will not help you to experience an unshakable and enduring appreciation for life or lead to the root of cause of happiness.
As a reader of my blog, you’ve read about how research on self-compassion and mediation practices like Loving Kindness and R.A.I.N. can help you to effectively reduce your unpleasant or painful emotions and improve your well-being and health. Nonetheless, you may still struggle with the idea of being kind with yourself or prioritizing these practices into your busy life schedule. If this sounds like you, or you struggle with an addiction (i.e., smoking, binge eating and emotional eating, using the internet as a distraction) because you are unable to sit, and befriend your mind, expanding your perspective and seeing your mind as an infant who is learning to walk and eventually run will help to ease your pain. Just as you would never shout at a baby for stumbling and falling, remembering to shift your perspective will help you to cultivate patience, trust and faith in letting go of your ineffective strategies to control and avoid the pain and discomfort that you may experience in your life. Likewise, imagining that you are feeding an infant who does not sit still or is crying when you experience distress or are distracted will help you to shift your attitude and be patient, loving and even playful your mind.
If these gentle reminders do not seem to be enough to ease your pain, the traditional practice of giving and taking (i.e., Tonglen) as described by Pema Chödrön may offer you relief and help to open your heart to deepen your compassion in order to experience vitality and bliss. While Tonglen meditation may appear to be overwhelming as you envision breathing in the pain and suffering of other people, the simplest form to practice Tonglen “on the spot” is simply to repeat “other people feel this too” each time you experience an unpleasant or painful emotion (e.g., the pain in your body because you fell and bruised your hand, financial worry as you realize that you spent too much on your summer vacation). Similarly, each time you experience a pleasant feeling or have pleasure in your life, repeat “may other people experience and delight in this too.” As you practice consistently, Tonglen will help open your heart to deepen your compassion and ease your suffering. You will also experience peace and joy as you notice and become aware of your everyday simple pleasures in life (e.g., the sun’s warmth on your skin, the delicious taste of your favorite meal, the post office worker’s smile and help).
To your health,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.drjosesandoval.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
You may face situations that are challenging and perhaps even overwhelming each day. You may be “tested” at the expense of your inner peace and personal resources. Illness, the loss of loved ones and simple everyday experiences like bumper to bumper traffic can provoke feelings of pain, sadness, anxiety and anger. Such experiences not only produce painful emotions, they are also very damaging to your body.
While practicing different forms of relaxation, skills like progressive muscle relaxation, diaphragmatic breathing or receiving massage therapy are effective in helping you to reduce your stress; new research suggests that cultivating and practicing Loving Kindness Meditation (LKM) provides you distinct benefits that go beyond managing your stress.
Researchers at Emory University have found that LKM may improve your physical and emotional responses to stress. Consistently practicing LKM every day for as little as 10 minutes helps you to reduce feeling of stress and depression, reduces physiological inflammation, illness, and chronic pain as well as enhances your empathy and feelings of social connection to others, self-acceptance, and physical resilience and well-being (i.e., increases your vagal tone and changes the neural circuitry of your insula and temporal parietal junction in your brain).1, 2,3,4
Having a LKM practice is simple and easy. To practice, visualize and generate positive, loving feelings towards yourself and others by gently repeating the following phrases:
May I be filled with love and kindness.
May be I safe and protected.
May I love and be loved.
May I be happy and contented.
May I be healthy and strong.
May my life unfold with ease.
May I be a person of joy.
After visualizing and sending love and kindness to yourself, follow by visualizing and then generating and sending these feelings to the following:
someone who you love deeply (e.g., your husband, mother, son).
a good friend.
someone who is “neutral” who you have neither very positive or negative feelings towards (e.g., the cashier at your grocery store).
someone who you do not like who may have hurt you and provokes feelings of discomfort or pain (e.g., your boss).
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a consultation.
Carson, JW, Keefe, FJ, Lynch, TR, Carson, KM, Goli, V, Fras, AM and et al. “Loving-Kindness Meditation for Chronic Low Back Pain: Results From a Pilot Trial” Journal Of Holistic Nursing. (2005). 23: 287-304.
Fredrickson, BL, Cohn, MA., Coffey, KA, Pek, J, and Finkel, SM. “Open Hearts Build Lives: Positive Emotions, Induced Through Loving-Kindness Meditation, Build Consequential Personal Resources.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. (2008). 95(5), 1045-1062.
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If you’re reading my blog, you’re probably not fully aware of what is happening right now and you are distracted by a torrent of thoughts and feelings. Researchers from Harvard University have found that people spend 46.9% of their waking time thinking about something other than what they’re doing and that this generally leads to a state of unhappiness.
Moreover, negative emotional states like dissatisfaction, stress, anxiety and depression can contribute to and accelerate the speed of cognitive decline. It’s no wonder then that you may be searching for a way to help you improve your life satisfaction and enhance your cognitive abilities. Fortunately, the simple skill of paying attention to your breath can help to soothe your mind you and may even extend your life.
Research has found that learning and practicing mindfulness meditation (i.e., observing your breath and simply noticing your thoughts and emotions non-judgmentally with curiosity, receptivity and affection) can lower your levels of stress, increase telomerase activity (i.e., your telomeres play a key role in the aging of your cells), enhance cognitive abilities like your memory and ability to focus and may even extend your lifespan by warding off the physiological effects of aging.1, 2, 3
This is significant news since research from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study has found that having early adverse life experiences like physical, emotional or sexual abuse, having parents who divorced, abused alcohol and drugs or family mental illness significantly increases the likelihood that you will experience emotional and cognitive impairments, adopt heath risk behaviors, chronic disease and lead to premature death.4
To learn mindfulness meditation is simple but not easy. Several resources exist, however; to support you and provide guidance as you cultivate a steady practice. The Center for Mindfulness, developed by Jon Kabat Zinn, offers an 8-week MBSR training program. You can also find MBSR programs locally or online.
To your health,
Dr. Sandoval
To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.
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Kim, S, Bi, X, Czarny-Ratajczak, M, Dai, J, Welsh, DA, Myers, L, et al. “Telomere maintenance genes SIRT1 and XRCC6 impact age-related decline in telomere length but only SIRT1 is associated with human longevity.” (2012). Biogerontology. 13(2):119-31. doi: 10.1007/s10522-011-9360-5.
Teicher, MH, Anderson, CM and Polcari, A. “Childhood maltreatment is associated with reduced volume in the hippocampal subfields CA3, dentate gyrus, and subiculum.” Proceedings in the National Academy of Science U S A. (2012). 109(9) 563-572. doi: 10.1073/pnas.1115396109.
The information, published and/or made available through the www.drjosesandoval.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention. Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.
